My first marriage was a 15 year relationship and this is where I learned that letting go of who I am wasn’t a healthy experience. Not for me, nor for my marriage.
Have you ever found yourself frustrated with a one sided relationship? I know how lonely that can make you feel. It’s like being a single married person, right! You get burnt out by doing and doing and not receiving anything in return. I learned so much about a one-sided marriage that I created a program that allows couples to discover the importance of “do for others as you would have them do for you”.
After dating my first husband 7 years I decided to take a new tactic the second time around and married after only 4 weeks of knowing each other. Heck, it worked for my parents who after dating only 4 weeks before marrying had a happy, fun, loving, healthy marriage that lasted 62 years when my dad passed away. Why couldn’t it work the same for me, right?
While it ended in divorce, this man awakened in me the importance of communication in a marriage. What I thought was a marriage of no arguments turned out to be a learning experience about the lack of communication. Sometimes saying nothing is healthy, if the situation is heated and you’re refraining from saying hurtful things, but then there are times when communication is necessary to keep the marriage alive. The lack of communication causes unknowingly painful disconnect. Do you experience no communication in your marriage? It drives you nuts doesn’t it! You might as well be talking to a wall, right!
One little piece of information about me, I’m so tenacious that even after being divorced two times, I was still not giving up on love so let me share with you a tad bit about my third marriage.
Ever wonder how nice girls fall for the bad boys? Well, I can tell you that husband #3, the bad boy, romanced the pants right off me. This marriage taught me the beauty of losing my inhibitions and being fully alive sexually in a way that I’d had never experienced before. It was so powerful! It was fun and exciting! Adventurous! Then the bad boy showed his true colors and the abuse began. This marriage taught me a most important and valuable lesson about understanding values and that’s why it’s the #1 focus you get when working with me on your marriage.
Let me ask you this…Are you afraid to let loose in the bedroom? What do you have to lose? You know it could be fun and exciting and even make the connection with your spouse more powerful and passionate, right! The ability to experience new adventures sexually can keep your marriage be hot, alive, and actually more secure and solid for many years to come! And, my clients have this fun awakening (sometimes life changing) experiences.
Because of the lesson I’ve learned and all the work I’ve done it allowed me to pick my fourth husband and I’ve got it right this time!
I realized early on in my life that I’m a Freak for Love.
Just staying together isn’t what I’m about, it’s staying together where you’re not only committed but also connected. Connected with values, give and take, fun, and respect, and that’s what I teach.
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